The traumas we experience in childhood act as triggers that bring past-life memories to the surface. Therefore, we all react differently to the things or words said from another. If we as adults don’t stop and reflect on the past, then we will forever stay programmed in a less than desired mindset.
Through my personal journey of self-growth, I wasn’t truly able to heal until I walked away from the people & environments where I became sick. That included family, toxic friendships, and relationships.
In a recent interview I conducted with Humans of Fuzia I shared details of what I had to overcome to find inner freedom. On this week’s episode of Dose of Doris (below) I share a glimpse of what I underwent in hopes it’ll encourage someone to keep moving forward and understand you are never alone.
Was she always destined to walk in the glamour? The answer is no. Growing up Doris’s life was as far away from glamour as she could be. It was a constant battle from darkness to light which made her realize that there was more to life than what she was living. In the search for personal freedom, she decided to walk away from her family and her old life. The courage that led her to take this step gave her the strength to heal”Humans of Fuzia Interview
From the quote above you might be asking yourself why did you walk away? I walked away because of the narcissist behavior I had endured throughout my childhood. I had to cut the cord emotionally and offer forgiveness because this was the only way to heal the programming distilled in me that I was not good enough. I’ve now found a way on both a subconscious and conscious mindset to re-program these beliefs.
Despite how people feel about 2020, it was the year that brought me my personal freedom. Where I started to do the shadow work as well as connect with my past childhood trauma. I completed this through both meditation and mirror talk.
Through all of this, I learned that we don’t need closure from others to move on we just need accept what has happened which includes what we might have failed to see. It all starts with us and we are all more than enough to allow ourselves to heal.
Theater lovers, event supporters, local media, and community leaders gathered in Walnut Creek on Saturday October 2nd for the premiere return of Diablo Regional Arts Association’s On Broadway Gala at the Lesher Center for the Arts.
This year’s annual outdoor fundraising gala featured a red-carpet cocktail hour with wine provided by Wente Vineyards among an array of art deco décor throughout. Walking in with grace, I felt like an Old Hollywood Actress wearing a elegant satin gown by Sahara & patent designer heels. In addition, I couldn’t help but up the glamour with a stunning pair of deco rhinestone earrings, an over-the-shoulder black fur stole and the reddest lips c/o Tom Ford Beauty.
As the crowd began to take their seats, announcements where made while a well curated three-course dinner courtesy of Barbara Llewellyn Catering was served. During the first & second courses performance by Max von Essen and The Honey Taps, began to set the ambiance of the evening.
For many, On Broadway Gala is more than an annual affair, its a fundraiser event that supports and raises funds to support the Lesher Center’s arts-education and artistic excellence initiatives. This year’s event, exceeded their goal earring $250,00 through the support of the fabulous sponsors and donors that attended. Not to mention, Tyler Gordon a 14-year-old commissioned artist and the evenings special presenter raised $10,500 during is a live auction of one of his paintings completed live on stage.
The evening continued with a particularly special media collaboration I had conducted with Diablo Regional Arts Association for their 2022 Headliners. I had the honor of producing the voiceover for the upcoming series for the crowd to enjoy. For those that are interested in obtaining tickets please click here to learn more. From Old-Hollywood glamour, fine wine & show stopping entertainment, On Broadway Gala always leaves it’s mark.
Vintage Sahara Satin Gown, similar here
AMA Pure Fur Scarf
Tamara Mello, Patent Heels
Rhinestone Earrings, similar here & here
Lipstick, Tom Ford
Nails, Red Carpet Manicure
Photography c/o Ben Krantz Studio
Over the past year, I’ve learned plenty regarding finding balance in life. It turns out having a spiritual awakening and pushing through a various number of obstacles on your path of personal growth can certainly benefit you.
On this week’s episode of Dose of Doris I talk about balance and how you can find inner serenity with four self-care tips that can be incorporated throughout your day.
Have you ever focused on your breathing throughout you day? Well if you haven’t you are missing a key indicator of your mood & stress levels. If you notice yourself holding your breath, breathing irregularly or sighing often, then consciously take 10 deep breaths, counting backwards with each inhalation and exhalation. Label each breath by saying to yourself, “Ten in, 10 out. Nine in, nine out until you reach one”. If you are able to do this laying down that would be ideal however, if not, sitting up would work as well. What this does is get you back on track and helps you center yourself as breathing has a HUGE role on mood & balance.
#2 Practice Gratitude
Unfortunately, many of us forget that in every stressful unbalanced situation there is something happening in our favor – as I always say everything is happening for you, not to you. I also would like to mention you can’t fake gratitude it has to come from a place of true intentions from the soul. That is why (what I like to call) the 10 x 10 rule can help you balance out your thoughts and rebalance your mindset. I promise you gratitude will change your life in ways you can’t explain it – it changed my life forever and is the sole reason I am where I am today.
#3 Change Your POV
It’s truly amazing if you just stop for a second and change your mindset and go into a state of gratitude how you can balance yourself out rather quickly. A perfect example is let’s say someone cuts you off and nearly hits you on the highway instead of having road rage to give them the bird – say to yourself “Thank God no one was hurt, my car is not damages, I am still on time and so on” Then of course you balance out your breathing and keep moving forward. Its how you precise something that can throw you off balance.
God, grant me the Serenity To accept the things I cannot change…Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.
#4 Surrender yourself
I can remember when I surrendered back in December 2020 it was such a soul deepening moment for me. Despite it taking me many months to get to this very place it has rewards you could never believe. For those that aren’t familiar with the action of surrendering it’s the act of letting go of attachment of how you think something should come out. When you do this, you open the outcome to something so much bigger than you could ever imagined. A helpful tip I often share with others is, just let life lead you and you will always find inner strength and beauty wherever you are lead to go. Life is suppose to be a mystery, a grand adventure.
The steps above are many that will help you get clear about what a balanced mindset should be and once you have a clear vision of what that is, everything will begin to fall into place.
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Ralph Lauren Ruffled Blouse, similar here
Foundation CHANEL, Lipstick MAC Cosmetics Nails, Red Carpet Manicure
Tufted Linen Rolled Arm Sofa, Wayfair
Antique Gold Lamp, similar here