The Dog on the Porch

Have you ever realized that despite the effort you put into helping another person with the necessary changes that would certainly better their life, they refuse? Well, that is the dog on the porch.

Changing people is something we cannot achieve no matter how hard we try; the only exception is if they are willing to do the work and have voluntarily asked. The ironic part of all of this is I believe people do what to change however the moment they start to think of the effort, time, energy and the under lining risk involved many will decide to stay in their comfort zone. Besides isn’t it easier to stay within the (m)asses where a box lifestyle is everyone’s way of being.

In the world today, we truly only have two options: accept those for who they are, it does not mean we must approve of their beliefs or behavior and if we do not then we must distance ourselves from them. It’s a formula known as: E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome) where you can blame the event for your lack or you can change your response to the events until you get the outcome you want.

 “Rather than pinning the blame on others understand the real problem is with ourselves and not the dog on the porch.” 

This leads me to my story as previously mentioned of the dog on the porch. In life some of us grow naturally while others don’t, this is where you become distorted with another and you begin to separate yourself. Too many people ignore the warnings and remain on the porch with the dog hoping or wishing that they would want the same things which is to go to the park. While they are content with sitting on the porch you respond in a number of ways to this event and always get the same outcome. However, you fail to remember you only have control over you and your actions. You now realize you have wasted all your time trying to convince someone else that you don’t control to go to the park with you. This resistance you are feeling was caused by you responding to the event in the wrong matter. It’s simple you ask once, “let’s go to the park” they reply they don’t want to, you might challenge their response then after they reply you must response to the event that will provide you with the outcome you desire.

While we want to believe we can control everything or everyone, however we can’t. If you dug a little deeper you’d discover you can not infringe on another person’s spiritual journey, it’s a law governed by the universe. You can try, but it almost never conveys positive results for either party involved.

Finally, you must come to terms that you are 100% responsible for your actions, life and how you react to the events in your life. Placing blame on your outer world is how many of us are conditioned to operate, rather than pinning the blame on others understand the real problem is with ourselves and not the dog on the porch.
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