Have you ever realized that despite the effort you put into helping another person with the necessary changes that would certainly better their life, they refuse? Well, that is the dog on the porch.

Changing people is something we cannot achieve no matter how hard we try; the only exception is if they are willing to do the work and have voluntarily asked. The ironic part of all of this is I believe people do what to change however the moment they start to think of the effort, time, energy and the under lining risk involved many will decide to stay in their comfort zone. Besides isn’t it easier to stay within the (m)asses where a box lifestyle is everyone’s way of being.

In the world today, we truly only have two options: accept those for who they are, it does not mean we must approve of their beliefs or behavior and if we do not then we must distance ourselves from them. It’s a formula known as: E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome) where you can blame the event for your lack or you can change your response to the events until you get the outcome you want.

 “Rather than pinning the blame on others understand the real problem is with ourselves and not the dog on the porch.” 

This leads me to my story as previously mentioned of the dog on the porch. In life some of us grow naturally while others don’t, this is where you become distorted with another and you begin to separate yourself. Too many people ignore the warnings and remain on the porch with the dog hoping or wishing that they would want the same things which is to go to the park. While they are content with sitting on the porch you respond in a number of ways to this event and always get the same outcome. However, you fail to remember you only have control over you and your actions. You now realize you have wasted all your time trying to convince someone else that you don’t control to go to the park with you. This resistance you are feeling was caused by you responding to the event in the wrong matter. It’s simple you ask once, “let’s go to the park” they reply they don’t want to, you might challenge their response then after they reply you must response to the event that will provide you with the outcome you desire.

While we want to believe we can control everything or everyone, however we can’t. If you dug a little deeper you’d discover you can not infringe on another person’s spiritual journey, it’s a law governed by the universe. You can try, but it almost never conveys positive results for either party involved.

Finally, you must come to terms that you are 100% responsible for your actions, life and how you react to the events in your life. Placing blame on your outer world is how many of us are conditioned to operate, rather than pinning the blame on others understand the real problem is with ourselves and not the dog on the porch.
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Dress Lady V Vintage (similar here). Paisley Wrap (similar here).
Accessories Etsy. Sam Edelman Patent Heels (here).
CHANEL, Flawless Finish Foundation. MAC, Matte Lipstick.
Red Carpet Manicure Gel Nail Polish.

More than 65 years ago, women carried a sense of poise that is hardly seen within today’s mainstream. From a golden era which possessed an epitome of glamour, there was one accessory which women ideally complemented each ensemble with – Gloves.

Today due to current affairs we are told to wear gloves, perhaps this is the perfect time for women to slip on a charming lady-like pair while travel as well as a number of other  public conveyance. While we currently live in unforeseen times, I would presume its time we all model after such style of the 1950s and do the same.

 “Better known as the “clothing of hands,” gloves have evolved to coincide with the changes in fashion.” 

Having been a classic lover of lady-lady gloves I have always worn a number of fabric choices, styles accented with buttons or mesh detailing. Today, I am wearing a modern styled leather gloves by Beau Gant a curated design house in Naples, Italy. Italian artisans make each glove by hand, using the finest luxury materials.

Gloves should be worn on the streets of cities and large town, when going to church, to a luncheon, dinner or reception, a dance, a wedding or an official function. They are also worn to a restaurant and in the theater and always remember, a lady never takes off her gloves to shake hands … and never asks that her glove be excused.______________________________
Frederic Harvey Wool Jacket & Suit Set.
Beau Gant, Leather Gloves.
Diff Sunglasses. Bag by Supreme, Etsy.
Sam Edelman, Danna Heels. Diamond Earrings (similar here & here).
Cover FX Foundation. Maybelline Super Stay Lipstick.

As many of us start to embrace the new uncertainties in the world we once knew, we all will find it will be viewed through everyone’s lens conversely. I have always been a visionary seeing the world I have created for myself, not the world I live in. It all starts with us, our thoughts and vision.

Today, I still view the world I’ve created before it was interrupted. Instead of living in fear I know that I am protected through my mindset and daily choices. I spoke recently on Dose of Doris regarding the topic that we are provided our mind at no cost and how many of us pollute our subconscious with the things that will not further us on our spiritual journeys.

“It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.” Albert Einstein

Through this hardship we have all experienced, it truly has been a reset button for us to place in perspective what has or hasn’t been serving our higher self. I’ve had to come to terms in my personal life with cycles that needed to end because they’ve run their course. Everyday life is revealing itself through numbers, incidents and the inner action with others.

Allow yourself to be open to change and only can you peel one layer off at a time. If you can keep your heart and mind open for change your future holds many abundances. The world truly is a beautiful place if you allow it to be. _____________________________
Dress c/o Bitter Root Vintage (here & here). Cat-Eyed Sunglasses.
Brian Atwood Pumps (similar here). Accessories, Etsy.
Beauty, Face CHANEL, Lipstick Maybelline, Nails, Red Carpet.